Have you thought about wedding songs for your first dance? Do you already know what you will be twirling around the dance floor to or are you looking for some inspiration? Well if you are, you have come to the right place. Turn up the speakers because today we are talking about wedding songs and poems for readings.
Wedding Songs and Poems
As well as thinking of wedding songs for your first dance, some couples may also be looking for a wedding poem for a reading. A wedding poem is a great way to get someone special involved in your amazing day.
There have been some truly beautiful wedding songs and poems written over the years which are very meaningful and would be perfect for during your ceremony. Some couples may go for something traditional such as the poems below:
These poems are all perfect for a reading at a wedding.
- How do I love thee? By Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
- Love by Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
- Fidelity by DH Lawrence.
- Hope is the thing with feathers by Emily Dickinson.
- I carry your heart by EE Cummings.
Wedding Love Letters
Some couples may instead choose to go with something a little different such as a love letter. I am a massive fan of the book “Big” quoted when he married Carrie in Sex and the City, Love letters of Great Men.
There is something very romantic about a letter. In the world of text and email, no one sits down to think about what they want to say anymore, the poetry is lost.
In the letters of Beethoven, Voltaire and Napoleon you can feel their emotion and love for the women they were missing.
Perhaps you may want to choose something from a movie that you both love? When thinking readings, it doesn’t have to be the traditional love poetry.
My own personal favourite – ‘You and me, we’re in a club now.‘ Carl and Ellie is my favourite love story of all time. Let’s now move on to weddings songs!
There are lots of wedding songs out there that are meaningful, have beautiful words that touch you, there are also some songs that are quite predictable first dance wedding songs. Sometimes it just depends on what’s in the top 40 right now, some have been top 10 wedding songs for years.
For some couples, choosing their wedding songs is easy. You may have a song already in mind that means something to you both. It brings back fluffy feelings and shiny memories. It is a song that makes you smile when it plays and will always be the song that invokes thoughts of each other and when you first heard it.
When my sister married my brother in law they immediately knew their wedding song. On one of their first dates, he dropped her home and wanted to play her a song that he loved. They put the song on and they danced in the hallway. It became “their” song and always will be. How romantic!
For others though, you may need a little help to choose. Perhaps you have too many songs. Friends of mine have a play list they listened to all the time when they were dating. There are so many songs they love that invoke such strong feelings and memories they don’t even know where to start.
Perhaps your song isn’t really ‘first dance song’ appropriate. If you met at a rock concert you don’t really want to be jumping around the dance floor for your first dance…or perhaps you do, it is your day after all.
Maybe you don’t have a song that comes to mind at all. This is where your friendly local wedding planner can come in handy to give you ideas and suggestions. There are lots of ‘top tens’ out there but perhaps you want something a bit more personal where you can identify with the lyrics.
When selecting your shortlist of wedding songs they need to strike a chord, songs in tune with your emotions and your personalities which you can both agree on. You will remember this moment forever so let’s not let it be a memory of stress and arguments. Choosing a wedding song doesn’t need to be something that makes you fall out, but it can be something that makes you fall more in love.
Perhaps you can both start by making a list of songs you’d each like the other to consider and then see if you can agree on any. I make it sound like choosing a baby name…we can talk about that later down the line…When you have your lists, try out a few songs.
Dance in the hallway and remember why you are getting married. If it is something you still can’t agree on, then why just have one song, have two or three wedding songs. My husband and I did.
There are lots of songs I love which have made it on to my top wedding songs list but when you really listen, they sometimes have a different meaning and perhaps are not the most suitable first dance songs.
The following list isn’t based on the top ten songs people had in 2015, or any other year for that matter because I have seen so many songs that make you think, is this really a first dance song, or for that matter, a wedding appropriate song on those lists.
For example Candy by Paolo Nutini is on many lists for top wedding songs, but have you really listened to the lyrics? He just wants what he wants and perhaps it isn’t as romantic as it seems. I Will Always Love You by Dolly Parton or Whitney Houston, she’s leaving him, is that really appropriate for a first dance song? And Sam Smiths Stay with me. I love this song, but he’s singing about a one night stand.
The following top ten list is based on songs people I have spoken to love or danced to at their own weddings. I listened to lots of love songs for this blog post and trying to narrow it down to a top ten list of weddings songs was quite difficult, there are so many more songs that I and people I spoke to love. However…
Top ten wedding songs!
drum roll please…
1. I love the way you love me – Boyzone. Yes yes, I get that it’s Boyzone and they are not the coolest band and this song isn’t the classic that some others might be, but I love this song, I love the lyrics and it’s one that you don’t hear that often.
2. At last – Etta James. Now this is a classic. A perfect wedding song that everyone will know. The music is moving and the lyrics romantic. If it’s good enough for Kim and Kanye…
3. Marry you – Bruno Mars. What a great song. For a start it’s all about getting married. This is one song that would make your guests love to join you on the dance floor. This is also a great song to get ready to with your bridesmaids.
4. Can’t take my eyes off you – Andy Williams. Another classic. There are so many of his songs that would be amazing to dance to but this one I do love and it’s so fitting for a first dance.
5. It had to be you – Harry Connick Jr. I have been a fan of Harry Connick Jr for many years, ever since I saw the movie When Harry Met Sally. I love big band songs, classic singers and romantic lyrics and this song is all of those things.
6. Have I told you lately – Van Morrison. Another classic song that most people will know. Perfect first dance material.
7. Your Song – Ellie Goulding or Elton John. Both versions are beautiful to dance to in the arms of the person you have just married. This was Kate and Wills first dance, although they had Ellie sing it live.
8. Can you feel the love tonight – Kristle Edwards, Joseph Williams, Sally Dworsky, Nathan Lane and Ernie Sabela. I get that this is from The Lion King, but don’t tell me you didn’t watch that scene where Simba and Nala are falling in love and well up at the romance!
9. A Thousand Years – Christina Perri. This song is from The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn Part One. My daughter introduced me to this love story. I always thought of it as a teen movie but I loved the films and love the song.
10. Wonderwall – Oasis. Not necessarily the traditional first dance song but still a great song. My friend walked down the aisle to her daughter singing this at her renewal. Not a dry eye!
OK, I know I said top ten but my iPod won’t stop playing…
11. Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton. How can you have a top ten (twelve) without Eric? Yet again another classic song. Another that your guests will know and great lyrics.
12. For Once in My Life – Stevie wonder. Last one I promise, it’s Stevie and HAD to be in the list.
Whichever wedding songs you decide to choose, I’m sure they will be perfect for you. Enjoy your first dance and make sure your photographer captures the moment. But just make sure your DJ has the song beforehand. All I can say is thank god for iTunes and instant downloads!
Please leave a comment below, I’d love to know your song choices, song ideas, or what you actually danced to at your wedding. Have a great weekend.