10 Steps to Planning a Wedding
I get asked all the time by my couples, how to start planning a wedding. They feel overwhelmed and just don’t know what to do first. So here are my 10 steps to planning a wedding.
Step One – Narrow it down
With Pinterest, Instagram, bridal blogs and Magazines we are inundated with wedding wonderfulness. There are pictures after pictures that come our way. Different wedding themes, the colour of the year, the list is endless. Although it may sound like a negative step, first of all, decide what you don’t like. Narrow things down and make decisions about the things you don’t want and this can make planning a wedding so much easier.
Step Two – Prioritise
Make a list of the things that are important to you. This will determine several things in helping you planning a wedding. First of all how your budget is split. For example, my husband is terribly allergic to flowers so this was on my not important list. I didn’t have floral centerpieces so my flower budget was small. Secondly, it will help you prioritise what you are looking at. My husband and I have large families and it was important to us that they celebrate with us which meant that we only looked at venues within a certain radius of our hometowns that could accommodate over 100 guests.
Step Three – Budget
Set your budget. Setting your budget isn’t just about deciding what to spend and where, it is also about where the money is coming from and setting the ground rules. If your parents are contributing, what does this mean? Are there guests they would like to invite? Will they want a say in the location? It is easier to discuss this upfront and not once planning is in full swing.
Step Four – Suppliers
There are some suppliers that you fall in love with. The second you see them and you see their work. Amazing suppliers get booked early so book your suppliers as soon as you can if there is someone in particular that you want. It is also important to make sure you are booking the right suppliers. When talking about the right suppliers, make sure they are right for you, that you click, that you trust them and that you can work with them.
Step Five – Time
When you think about how long it takes to plan a wedding. You can spend a few weeks planning and have the wedding of your dreams, or you can spend years planning and have the wedding of your dreams. But whatever your timescale, give yourself the time you need so that the stress doesn’t take over.
Step Six – Delegate
There are so many elements to planning a wedding. Some of it are fun and exciting. Tasting cake, trying on dresses, choosing rings. But some things are less fun, making sure there is linen and crockery and places for your guests to park are less than exciting but absolutely necessary. Don’t be afraid to ask people for help and delegate tasks.
Seven – Everyone is different
Every couple is different and every person is different. Don’t think that you have to enjoy trying on dresses and eating cake. I have worked with some brides who haven’t wanted to plan any aspect of their wedding. Try not to compare yourself to others, try not to compare your planning process and try not to compare budgets. Every wedding is different and this can stress you out.
Eight – Date
Your wedding day is the beginning of your wonderful adventure together so try not to let it consume you. Make sure that you make time for each other and never stop ‘dating’.
Nine – Be a Team
Your wedding day is about you as a couple. Planning a wedding can be stressful and it can take over. Make sure you support each other and are there for each other. Especially if things aren’t going the way you hoped.
Ten – Help!
I always say, A Wedding Planner isn’t for the rich and famous, it’s for the busy! With work, kids, a social life, a house to run, fitting in a wedding isn’t easy and can easily take upto 600 hours!!!
A Wedding Planner is still a newish concept in the UK but more and more couples turning to a Wedding Planner or an On the Day Coordinator to help them out. When planning a wedding, you spend a lot of money so what you need to do is to ensure that money doesn’t go to waste, and that you are able to enjoy your day.