
Five ways to involve people in your wedding
Five ways to involve people in your wedding
Weddings can be small and intimate or can encompass hundreds of people across continents but one thing they have in common, the people you love are there, even if it’s just the two of you. So when planning your wedding, how can you get the people you love involved? Here are my five ways to involve people in your wedding.
Host a planning party!
There is so much inspiration out there and so many wonderful magazines, blogs, websites and let’s not forget Pinterest so where to start? A planning party will help you focus on your vision and by involving people you can bounce ideas around all over a glass of bubbly! And if you already have a very clear vision for you big day then you might want to consider a planning party to explain your vision to those around you who have strong opinions on your wedding.
Get hashtagging!
A wedding hashtag is a must when it comes to most modern weddings. It’s a fun way to capture a couple’s big day through the eyes of their loved ones. But if you’re caught in the madness of planning your own wedding, it can be something you overlook.
This is where wedding stationery company Wedding Paper Divas steps in. They’ve created a wedding hashtag generator that can save you the stress of finding the perfect hashtag. All you have to do is plug in your name and wedding date to get dozens of ideas to choose from. You can even check to see if a hashtag you’re thinking of is already in use. See how it works here!
Once you find your wedding hashtag make sure you use it on everything from invitations to place cards and menus!
You want your hashtag fresh in the minds of your guests so they remember to use it when posting on social media. After the big day, you can check out photos shared and create a wedding album.
Flowers
Flowers and weddings go hand in hand but your vision can be expensive. I did a wedding in the summer and all the flowers came from the gardens of either the brides mother or sister. As keen gardeners, not florists, they had grown some of the most gorgeous flowers, and the smell when you walked in the room…absolutely amazing! They were all displayed in upcycled jam jars and milk bottles and they were stunning and a great way to involve people in your wedding whilst saving money.
Readings
A civil ceremony can be quite short and pass in a blur but having readings can be a great way to involve people. Readings, poems or even someone singing a song makes your wedding very personal. This is one of the more traditional ways to involve people in your wedding without having a hundred bridesmaids which trust me, isn’t the best way to involve everyone. No one wants to play bridesmaid politics!
Switch up tradition
Anyone who reads my blog regularly will know I’m not a fan of tradition. Tradition costs money and this is your day so who says you can’t do it your way?! In the UK the bride is traditionally accompanied down aisle by her father whilst the groom stands at the alter and waits for her, but why not get others involved? Who says that’s how it has to be? Walk down with the people you love, whoever they are!
How do you plan on involving people in your special day?
Love Rebecca x, wedding planner to the stars because, every bride is a star!
Hashtags for the big day is a great idea. It’s gotta be fun seeing the big day from the eyes of your guests.
It works really well James
As a Marketing Specialist I love the wedding hashtag maker idea! I’ve been to weddings with their own website and private Facebook groups with wedding photo challenges.
I know of hen parties where they’ve made the flower arrangement/table decorations/bunting and I know someone who sent out decorate your own bunting packs with the invites.
The best planning I’ve been involved in though was wedding wine tasting!
Ooo wedding wine tasting! I want to do that!
Great ideas, I got married before I discovered social media! 10 years ago! I love up-cycling jam jars and bottles, sounds lovely.
Me too Julie…and before Pinterest
We involved family members and friends by asking them to be in charge of particular little jobs so they felt included but were not taking over, and requested that people gifted us their skills rather than money. My mother-in-law baked Slovakian bagash and grew flowers the Spring before we married to include in the table decorations. Another family member made bunting to match our colour scheme for the venue. Another friend loaned us her giant chess set (the wedding was Alice in Wonderland themed!). Another friend did my wedding hair as her gift, another did my nails. My stepmother translated a piece of music that is typically played on a 12 string guitar into something for a string quintet to play as I entered the gardens where our ceremony was held.
It also helped that we made it very clear form the start that NO ONE was making final decisions other than my husband and I, and that trying to coerce or guilt trip us into choosing something we didn’t want was unacceptable. We had no issues at all, and had a truly wonderful day!
I love the idea of gifting skills rather than money. It sounds like an amazing and intimate day
Some really brill ideas here! It’s good to be reminded that tradition isn’t the same as a rule and we’re free to shake things up 🙂
Thanks Toby