Coping with wedding stress
Happy Tuesday wonderful blog readers. I hope you had a lovely bank holiday weekend but it’s back to work today…booooo…but it’s a four day week…yay! On the blog today I am talking all about coping with wedding planning stress. They say that getting married is one of the most stressful things that you will do. There is so much to think about, venues, dresses, flowers, favours, coordinating all of the vendors and suppliers, money, pleasing everyone! No wonder it’s so stressful. Friends and Family have opinions on what you should and shouldn’t do, advice to give you, things they would have done differently. Prospective guests don’t reply and let you know if they are coming and the ones who do have dietary requirements or are simply fussy about what they will eat.
When planning your wedding it’s important that you take care of yourself and that you take time out. That alone can help you with coping with wedding planning stress. So what can you do to help keep your stress levels under control? You won’t be able to eliminate all of your stress but being able to have a few techniques to help you in coping with wedding planning stress will help you greatly. You may feel that you don’t want to hire a wedding planner as you are finding that you are (mostly) enjoying the planning side of things, but having someone to help you, runs ideas past or just talk to can be really useful.
Firstly, it is important to be aware and be prepared. Before you even start to plan your big day, what do you see as being your biggest source of stress and how can you mitigate this? For instance, perhaps your parents are divorced and you don’t know how the top table will work. Try mitigating the issue by first of all talking to them. Explain why you are worried and perhaps they will help ease your fears about the situation, or remove the worry completely by not having a top table and going for a sweetheart table instead, this will also give you both time alone on your wedding day between the madness!
Delegate! Something I am really terrible at. I am a complete control freak and know how I want things done so find it easier to do everything myself, but this doesn’t help with my stress levels. A wedding is a big event and there is a lot to do. Look around you, who can you trust, who can you rely on? Explain to them what you need doing but be clear and give timescales, if you want to remain in control over the big things, have people run errands for you, tie bows, put stamps on letters. It’s the little jobs that all add up and take up your time. Perhaps drop me a line and I can sort your RSVPs.
Make a plan. There are some great on line planners out there on sites such as Confetti that can help you write lists and make sure that you have things covered. Personally I prefer a paper planner, something I like to give to the brides I work with. Something you can carry round and add to without having to log on, something you can take with you when looking a venues, choosing flowers, tasting cakes! Etsy UK has a great range of paper planners. They come with checklists and notes pages and can really help getting all of your thoughts and ideas in one place. I am completely obsessed with stationary and can spend hours on that site!
Take time out
When coping with wedding stress it is important to take time out. Spa breaks are a great way to take time out from everything that is going on, weddings, work, people. There are tons of spas around the country; perhaps your venue has one and what a better way to get away from it all than having someone pamper you whilst you drink prosecco.
There are so many websites and blogs that give advice when it comes to stress and they all say meditate. This is totally something that I can’t do. All that is going through my head is the great big long to do list and the fact that I am wasting my time, I get that I’m not but try telling my brain that. I currently run a business, volunteer twice a week, have three children, a dog, a husband and a variety of family illnesses to deal with so my life is pretty stressful most of the time. Last year I did a hypnotherapy course, don’t worry I have no plans to be your evening entertainer and make the best man bark like a dog. To be honest it wasn’t something I was that open to at first but I loved it. It taught me how to not only relax myself, but to recognise stress in others and help them with relaxation. It’s a lot easier than meditation for me.
As well as relaxing through meditation, spa breaks or whatever you choose, it is also important to take care of yourself. Make sure that you eat properly, sleep well and yes, exercise. I never did find those happy hormones people say they get from exercise, but I do take the dog out whenever I am not working away. There is nothing like a long walk to clear the cobwebs and get your head in order.
Thoughout the whole process of planning your wedding it is important that you spend time together. Coping with wedding stress isn’t easy, for either of you. There may be times when tempers get frayed and arguments over typefaces may happen but remember why you are doing this. So go on date nights, sit with a glass of wine and chat, watch a movie in each other’s arms and think of this as just one chapter in your fairytail.
Coping with wedding stress isn’t easy and I am a big believer in talking about it so why not give me a ring? Quite often with stress we build it up in our heads and sharing the issues you are stressing about, talking through your options with someone and chatting over your worries can really help. Good luck with your planning and try not to worry!