Asking your boyfriend to marry you!
Congratulations! Traditionally 29 February is the day that women get down on one knee to ask their boyfriends to marry them. Most women want the fairy tale, they want hearts and flowers and their man down on one knee in Paris or Rome or New York, they want the romantic stories we read about on Facebook.
But, not all men have the same notion of romance as women, I have heard of stories of being proposed to in Burger King, being asked minutes after giving birth or him being so drunk, she wasn’t even sure if he was serious. Not quite how the girls dreamed it would happen.
Although, not to worry you but the romantic proposals don’t always turned out as planned either. A friend of mine planned to propose to the love of his life in a beautiful hotel where they always planned to marry, unfortunately she got food poisoning from the starter and ended up spending the evening in the bathroom, not the most romantic of evenings!
Just because you don’t have the proposal you dreamed of doesn’t mean it can’t be romantic. Remember Monica and Chandler?! Or is that 90’s reference showing my age? But before asking your boyfriend to marry you, a few things to think about…
Have the two of you talked about marriage?
No one wants to be turned down, particularly if you propose in a public place, Awkward! If it is something you are already discussing, then you asking may not come as a complete surprise.
Do you buy a management ring? A friend of mine bought her fiance a ring so they both had an engagement ring, a ring makes it official and there are a lot out there to choose from for your man and you don’t need to go girly diamond a la Johnny Depp. There are also some pretty cool ring boxes around for you to choose from. Some men may not want to wear a ring or prefer a wedding band and there is nothing wrong with something temporary, think beer pulls and doughnuts, not that I’m suggesting Homer Simpson.
Do you get down on one knee? Totally up to you, it may not fit in with how you plan to propose and you may not feel comfortable. It has to be right for you, this is something you will remember forever and a story you will tell your grandchildren, everyone will want to know about your love story and you don’t want to remember feeling embarrassed or be embarrassed to tell your story.
What’s his idea of romance?
You need to remember that you are the on doing the proposing here so this needs to be about him and not how you would like to be proposed to so make it about him. Think about the things he likes to do, the places he likes to visit, hobbies that he has and then get planning!
Think about what you want to say and how you are going to ask and make sure you plan it and rehearse it. Think about your relationship, your feelings and your future and talk from the heart. But remember you might be nervous, if it doesn’t come or doesn’t come out as you planned, its OK. The important bit is the question, oh and of course the answer.
Drop me a line and share your story, I do love a good fairy tale.